Brother and Sister

February 4, 2013

Kate is 21 months old today. Piran turned three and a half on Friday. This seems like a strange sort of milestone for me. One that I have had one eye on for the past few weeks. I have been waiting for this week to arrive. It seems significant somehow although I am really not too sure why.

Kate is exactly half Piran’s age.

Kate is the exact age that Piran was when Kate was born.

Piran's first look at Kate

Piran’s first look at Kate

I can’t help but imagine what it would be like to be bringing another baby home from the hospital right about now. Crowded, that is for sure. I can remember the day Piran met Kate but if I am honest I can’t actually remember that much more. Those early baby days when you have two children and it is non stop and I still can’t work out how having two children seems to be three times the amount of work one child was. Bringing a baby home and changing the dynamic of our family wasn’t really something that worried me at the time but I will admit that looking back I thought that the fact that Piran became a limpet around the same time was entirely my fault for changing his life around so drastically. But here I am and Kate is the same age and she has suddenly become so attached to me, wanting to be carried, to be held, she will only let me do things no one else. So maybe it is an age thing. Either way it is very hard work, back then with a newborn to look after too and now with a ….. um what are they at 3 and a half? Not a toddler, a little boy? A pre schooler? Is that what he is now?

All of a sudden this seems to be going a little too fast for me. I can’t help myself when I wish away the winter, we are all a bit stir crazy from cold weather and being stuck in or it being so hard to go out even just for a bit. But once the winter has gone then it is Spring. Sometime around Easter we find out what school he will be going to in September. Kate will turn 2 (TWO? WTF?) and the the summer will go past in a blur and he will be stood in his uniform, at the start of September and everything will be different. He will be out there on his own every day. He will be apart from his sister which will be the bigger shock as they are almost always together.

And we got here so fast from that day when he looked down at the little baby and started calling her his ‘Bubby’. I am so lucky that in the most they rub along together without too much fuss. Piran is starting to annoy Kate more though, and some days that is fine, and others she clearly wants none of it but getting him to stop is an entirely different matter. I hope that they manage to stay friends in some way or other. My mum says that one of her worst days when we were small started with my brother and I arguing with each other and we hadn’t even got out of bed yet (and we were in separate rooms!). If Piran is upset (particularly if I have told him off) then he goes and demands a Kate Cuddle. When she was ill last week and I needed to make tea he took my position on the sofa and let her snuggle up to him to make her feel better.

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I love that they clearly love each other so much. I hope it lasts a while longer at least.

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  • Reply Peggy February 4, 2013 at 9:41 pm

    I remember being at that stage in life when all I could think of was how life was going to be different once E would start school. It scared me that for the first time of his life he would live a separate life from his brother, from all of us in fact. We are two years down the road and things can’t look more different than back then. I sometime miss those days when it was just us 3 but then you learn to really enjoy and make the most of their school holidays and that’s a real pleasure 🙂

    • Reply Kelly February 7, 2013 at 9:29 pm

      Yes I can imagine that the holidays are a welcome break in the routine and an opportunity to spend proper time together. I am really going to miss being able to take them to Cornwall at any time of year. The holidays are so busy down there and we will have no choice. Oh well, we have until September to make the most of it.

  • Reply PhotoPuddle February 4, 2013 at 11:06 pm

    I loved your half birthday tea party picture the other day and am inspired. I am definitely going to celebrate half birthday with my children. Especially as their birthdays are almost exactly six months apart so it’ll mean birthday and half birthday celebrations at the same time.
    You keep inspiring me! I’m sure this isn’t the first time I’ve commented one of your blog posts and said I’m inspired.
    And three and four year olds are definitely not toddler. More pre-schoolers I’d say. Although my daughter suddenly seems very grown up and I’m tempted to call her a pre-teen!

    • Reply Kelly February 7, 2013 at 9:24 pm

      Thank you, what a lovely thing to say. I am with you on the teen thing, Piran threw a hissy fit and stormed off to his bedroom and slammed the door this week. 3 going on 13.

  • Reply Jen aka The Mad House February 5, 2013 at 4:25 pm

    I am so with Peggy on this, it is so close yet so far away for me. I try not to yearn for day past or days to come and just focus on the present. I need to live in the now, to make the most of today and remember that life is the journey not the destination. I started my blog when Rob was Piran’s age. The summer before he went to School. That Summer we crammed so much in making the most of my time with the two of them. It seems like a hazy memory filtered with sun and laughter.

    I have to take a breath when I think that Maxi will be 8 next month!

    • Reply Kelly February 7, 2013 at 9:27 pm

      It does just seem to speed by. We will definitely do our best to spend a lot of time together as a family this summer. I plan on leaving Kate in nursery on her normal days but taking Piran out when his funding finishes at the end of July so they can get used to being apart a bit and also so I get to spend some special time with him before he goes to school.

  • Reply Jay February 6, 2013 at 7:56 am

    Oh gosh, the quote from your Mum of arguing from 1st thing in the morning is exactly the stage my children are at now! After being the best of pals for years they have all started to bicker from sunrise to sunset – I feel so worn down right now!
    The last photo of them is so cute, long may it continue!

    • Reply Kelly February 7, 2013 at 9:25 pm

      I can see how the constant bickering would run you down. I hope that you get some respite from it soon. Mum always used to say she would knock our heads together!

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