Coming Out

April 6, 2006

Paul and I had a conversation earlier in the week trying to remember a particular date.

We were walking into town at lunchtime and I mentioned that I had looked it up. So he then wanted to know where I had looked it up. Guessing it was a diary he started asking me questions about the sort of stuff that I wrote about and in the end I just had to hold my hands up and say it.

I have a Blog.

Now the burning question is do I give him the link or do I keep it to myself?


  • Reply Cleavers April 6, 2006 at 3:28 pm

    Keep it to yourself. As soon as you realise that particular people who are close to you read it, you start changing what you say. I had to tell my mum in advance recently something I was about to write so she didn’t find out about it directly from the blog. Kind of defeats my purpose really, but hey.

  • Reply Doug April 6, 2006 at 6:02 pm

    I don’t tell any of my close friends (except jon who was mentioned in the comment section of the last post) because I never wanted to censor what I write. Hey, if he pisses me off, he’ll definately know about it.

  • Reply AnonymousCoworker April 6, 2006 at 7:08 pm

    Ooh, tough question. Maybe you can wait for him to ask for the link.

  • Reply running42k April 6, 2006 at 8:59 pm

    My vote is for keeping it to yourself.

  • Reply Adz April 6, 2006 at 11:18 pm

    I vote to keep it to yourself.

    Sometimes I wish I had kept my blog my little secret, but it is too late for that now I guess….

  • Reply Léonie April 7, 2006 at 10:26 am

    I’m with the keeping it to yourself team, as a general rule, if you think it will make you censor yourself. I’ve forgotten who knows about mine now, and although sometimes I feel like it is an exercise in honesty, I also often wish I could be more brutal.

    I have told ex-boyfriends, and I hate when I am asked “why didn’t you write about me today?” or “are you going to write about (insert whatever) on your blog?” or, worst of all, “I only know what’s going on with you through your blog”. Saying that, however, these relationships have been flawed and have quickly gone down the drain, and yours is, I’m sure, more secure than they were.

    I think that, in theory, keep it to yourself. However it is a big part of your life (admit it…) and you should share if you want to. It is scary, because you have to go through all your posts and try to recall the things you said, when you said them and about whom.

    Do you remember (bloody hell this is the longest comment in the world, should’ve emailed) when I had that problem with my significant ex linking to my blogging friends? (Hello, OhDave, if you’re reading) It’s difficult, but I think be as honest as you can be without feeling like it will engender censorship.

    Good luck, my friend…!

  • Reply Anne April 7, 2006 at 2:55 pm

    Dont do it! I gave mine out to ONE person..and now I have to censor what I write about that person because they will think that I am trying to talk to them through my blog. And if you arent careful you might.. and that just stinks.

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