Dear Me

December 2, 2009

Dear Me,

So. You are 16 now. Last night was insane! You finally felt part of something. And you know what, you are. Some of those people will be your friends for a very long time. Treasure them.

So, what can I tell you? I don’t want to spoil anything. Well, ok. Tonight you are going to lose your virginity in a tent in your parent’s back garden. The condom splits and you get caught leaving the tent. Hold on. Don’t do it then and there. It will save a row with your parents and a trip to the doctors for the morning after pill. There will be plenty of other opportunities.

Here it is. Don’t worry so much about fitting in. Being who you are suits you better. Don’t be such a doormat. When you meet that boy in the high street shortly after starting college just go for it. Then get it out of your system. The boy is good but I spent 10 years obsessing over the relationship that never happened. He is a rubbish kisser but the connection you have at times puts that in the shade.

Know that your Mr Right is out there, that one day you will meet and get married and have kids. Don’t try and force it on the boys you are with in the next few years.

Before doing anything that affects someone else, imagine what it would be like if they did it to you. This will save a couple of friendships and hopefully stop you acting like a complete and utter bitch.

Appreciate your parents. I am one now and wow, you really have no idea how hard it is. Don’t be so hard on your stepdad, he loves you in his own way. Go and tell your mum now how much it hurts you when he buys you bags as presents and jokes that they are for when you move out. Besides, when you were thrown out a few weeks ago you packed one of your own anyway. Now that they have let you come back try and behave. The alternative isn’t good. If you dad and stepmum are fighting leave and don’t look back. You do not have to suffer their drama. They will calm down in a year or two.

Enjoy your youth, do not let fear hold you back. Do not go to the nightclub alone with a group of strangers during Freshers week at University. It will change your life forever. Do not be afraid to follow your heart when you find being away from home is too much. Going back is the start of something special.

Wear short skirts as much as you can, you will hit 24 and never be so skinny again! Never spend more than you have. Laugh every day. Be kind. Tell the people in your life you love and appreciate them.

Have fun.



  • Reply TheMadHouse December 2, 2009 at 3:12 pm

    I couldnt have wrote a letter to my 16 year old self, as she had a lot of growing up to do adn would never have listened

  • Reply The Dotterel December 2, 2009 at 3:20 pm

    Oh if only the clocks went backwards, eh? I could cut-and-paste most of that letter and send it to myself…

  • Reply Hearth-mother December 2, 2009 at 4:42 pm

    I think I would have tried to listen to an older me – but I worry that if I didn't do some of those things then I wouldn't BE me.

  • Reply Josie @Sleep is for the Weak December 2, 2009 at 11:45 pm

    Love this Kelly – I think our 16 year old selves would have had a lot in common (especially the dodgy back garden rendezvous… ahem…)


  • Reply april December 3, 2009 at 2:02 am

    wow – much in common, could not have written to myself, very brave of you.

  • Reply make do mum December 4, 2009 at 10:53 am

    I'm actually jealous as my 16 year old self was so boring! (Don't worry I made up for it at college) x

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