My entry for this month’s Blogging for Books.
It occurred to me this morning that the internet version of a fly on the wall is a Lurker. Which got me thinking. Now I have nothing against lurkers, I myself have been one on many occasions. When I first started reading people’s blogs the idea of commenting scared me half to death. The idea that I could make a comment to someone that I had never met before that didn’t realise that I was reading their blogs was such an alien concept to me.
In real life I am very good at putting my foot in my mouth (no, not in the literal sense – eeew!) and saying things without completely engaging my brain. Mostly, this is harmless and has never resulted in more than a verbal kicking from the odd friend. However, I know that written comments / emails / texts make life even harder. You know how it is. You send a text trying to be sarcastic and because you don’t have the visual clues or the tone of the voice to go by someone immediately thinks you are being serious and before you know it you are sending groveling apologies trying to take back whatever you have said that appears to have mortally offend them.
So I lurked and I read and I went back to blogs on a regular basis and spent a lot of time reading other people’s comments and trying to work out what the etiquette was I suppose. Then one day at the end of July I decided that enough was enough and I was ready to step my relationship with blogging up a gear. I read, I thought, I commented!
My first comment ever was on A Strange Breed of Freak. The blog is no longer on my blogroll. No, not because my wise words resulted in them taking out the blog equivalent of a restraining order but just because I grew out of reading it. Not saying that it was dull, or uninteresting I guess I just found others that were more relevant to my life. In the past 9 months that I have been blogging my blogroll has changed considerably. Some are still hanging on, others just got left behind. As usual it was all about me! But because I commented I got my first ever comment back. Look here it is!
My first ever non solicited comment was from a blogger known as E whose blog I loved to read but unfortunately one day it just disappeared. It was the first time that had happened to me and it was shocking in a way. I never get used to that. If I ever stop I will leave a farewell post I am sure.
As of this moment I have had 991 comments. Yes I have saved them all. It makes writing posts like this easier!
Once I got in the swing of leaving comments it became so much fun. I have a little game that I play with myself occasionally. I challenge myself to go and read the most recent post on every blog on my blogroll and leave a comment on every single one. Sounds easy? Try it. Sometimes even I am at a loss at what to say and it can be quite difficult. Still you end up making a lot of people happy (come on, admit it, we are all comment whores underneath it all!) I remember doing it once whilst slightly on the tipsy side and had to go back the next day to make sure I hadn’t left any comments that I would regret! And you thought drunk posting was bad.
Make than 992 comments. Ta Cleavers.
When this post was brewing in my mind I went and checked my active meter stats for the past week or so and it seems that I don’t really have a lot of lurkers. The majority of the people that come and read are known to me so must have left a comment and one time or other. I always reciprocate. Read mine and I will read yours. Comment and I will comment. It makes my blog world go round. The only people that seem to be lurking on this site are those that have come through search engines. And let’s be honest, I am not sure that people who search for “Wet look puffa jackets” and “Tenerife Girls” are really going to have anything constructive to say on my blog!
So I just want to say thanks to you all that pop over and check on me and leave your comments and advice and words of wisdom. To any one that can hold their hands up and say they are a bit of a lurker, be it on my blog or others, I say – Don’t be a fly on the wall. Make yourself known and heard. I know that your comments will put a smile on any bloggers face.