Fly on the Blog

April 6, 2006

My entry for this month’s Blogging for Books.

It occurred to me this morning that the internet version of a fly on the wall is a Lurker. Which got me thinking. Now I have nothing against lurkers, I myself have been one on many occasions. When I first started reading people’s blogs the idea of commenting scared me half to death. The idea that I could make a comment to someone that I had never met before that didn’t realise that I was reading their blogs was such an alien concept to me.

In real life I am very good at putting my foot in my mouth (no, not in the literal sense – eeew!) and saying things without completely engaging my brain. Mostly, this is harmless and has never resulted in more than a verbal kicking from the odd friend. However, I know that written comments / emails / texts make life even harder. You know how it is. You send a text trying to be sarcastic and because you don’t have the visual clues or the tone of the voice to go by someone immediately thinks you are being serious and before you know it you are sending groveling apologies trying to take back whatever you have said that appears to have mortally offend them.

So I lurked and I read and I went back to blogs on a regular basis and spent a lot of time reading other people’s comments and trying to work out what the etiquette was I suppose. Then one day at the end of July I decided that enough was enough and I was ready to step my relationship with blogging up a gear. I read, I thought, I commented!

My first comment ever was on A Strange Breed of Freak. The blog is no longer on my blogroll. No, not because my wise words resulted in them taking out the blog equivalent of a restraining order but just because I grew out of reading it. Not saying that it was dull, or uninteresting I guess I just found others that were more relevant to my life. In the past 9 months that I have been blogging my blogroll has changed considerably. Some are still hanging on, others just got left behind. As usual it was all about me! But because I commented I got my first ever comment back. Look here it is!

My first ever non solicited comment was from a blogger known as E whose blog I loved to read but unfortunately one day it just disappeared. It was the first time that had happened to me and it was shocking in a way. I never get used to that. If I ever stop I will leave a farewell post I am sure.

As of this moment I have had 991 comments. Yes I have saved them all. It makes writing posts like this easier!

Once I got in the swing of leaving comments it became so much fun. I have a little game that I play with myself occasionally. I challenge myself to go and read the most recent post on every blog on my blogroll and leave a comment on every single one. Sounds easy? Try it. Sometimes even I am at a loss at what to say and it can be quite difficult. Still you end up making a lot of people happy (come on, admit it, we are all comment whores underneath it all!) I remember doing it once whilst slightly on the tipsy side and had to go back the next day to make sure I hadn’t left any comments that I would regret! And you thought drunk posting was bad.

Make than 992 comments. Ta Cleavers.

When this post was brewing in my mind I went and checked my active meter stats for the past week or so and it seems that I don’t really have a lot of lurkers. The majority of the people that come and read are known to me so must have left a comment and one time or other. I always reciprocate. Read mine and I will read yours. Comment and I will comment. It makes my blog world go round. The only people that seem to be lurking on this site are those that have come through search engines. And let’s be honest, I am not sure that people who search for “Wet look puffa jackets” and “Tenerife Girls” are really going to have anything constructive to say on my blog!

So I just want to say thanks to you all that pop over and check on me and leave your comments and advice and words of wisdom. To any one that can hold their hands up and say they are a bit of a lurker, be it on my blog or others, I say – Don’t be a fly on the wall. Make yourself known and heard. I know that your comments will put a smile on any bloggers face.


  • Reply dragonfly April 6, 2006 at 5:13 pm

    Great post. I love the idea of a lurker being an Internet Fly. Conjures up all sorts of intriguing images. Good luck!

    (and see… I left a comment! Heh.)

  • Reply Doug April 6, 2006 at 6:01 pm

    Hello, I’m here! I know what you mean about commenting. I was somewhat lucky and the blog I first commented on was a friends so he pretty much knew what I was saying. I think you were the 3rd blog (other than his) that I commented on.
    1. A Career Woman and a Housewife (who apparently no longer post)
    2. Leoni
    3. Kelly
    4. Cec and Bug (although it was only bug at the time).

  • Reply Retro Girl April 6, 2006 at 9:41 pm

    New to your blog…quite enjoying it 🙂

    I too have been a lurker at times..Feeling the same way – maybe not confident enough to comment, or not sure what to say. I have been trying more to do so, and make new connections out there.

    I am kinda new at blogging, and have had traffic to my page, but no comments (other than those of a friend from ‘back home’). I get lots of lurkers. I know my writing hasn’t been very profound lately…maybe it’s boring?! I need to get back into the groove.

    I think comments, and feedback really help with that – helps you make more connections, and improves your writing, content, etc.

    I think I will try blogroll at your suggestion and likewise, go look at and comment on the sites in my list (have to go read up on all this!)

    Will be back to read more 🙂
    Take care!

    aka Retro-Girl

  • Reply indoloony April 7, 2006 at 3:55 am

    If you comment that much, I would suggest looking into coComment (google it?). It’s a great way of keeping tracks of comments you leave in most blogging platforms..

  • Reply Bonnie April 9, 2006 at 6:04 pm

    Hi, I like to read all the other blogging for book entries, so of course, ended up here. I too have a lot of lurkers and even friends don’t leave comments on the blog. They will email me and say I was at your blog and comment in the email. It’s hard to get people to understand how much fun it is to get the comments ON THE Blog itself. Enjoyed yours. Zeph

  • Reply Rainbow Momma April 10, 2006 at 3:59 pm

    Found your blog through Blogging for Books. Good luck! And I wish everyone had your attitude about leaving comments. 🙂

  • Reply Pearl April 11, 2006 at 2:22 am

    Good story and entry. Lurking is a great angle for being a fly on the wall.

  • Reply Tracy April 11, 2006 at 3:38 am

    Okay, you’ve convinced me. I shall lurk no more!

  • Reply susan April 17, 2006 at 2:11 am

    This is such a cool take on the B4B theme and an interesting analysis of blogging and commenting. I do think it’s so exciting to get comments from people–and comments from lurkers are a special treat since they remind me that there are people out there reading whom I don’t know. I love finding out more about who’s reading.

    I came here via B4B–I’ll be back!

  • Reply dragonfly April 17, 2006 at 3:47 pm

    Congrats on making the final 7!

  • Reply fin April 21, 2006 at 3:14 pm

    lurk lurk lurk!

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