Pattern formations

January 26, 2010

I am starting to realise that every month something happens to upset the proverbial apple cart and I go back to thinking that I will never get a hang of this mum lark.

There was the topsy turvy part at 3 months. There was the mystery at 4 months. I didn’t blog about it at 5 months but there was a bump in the road at around 5 months too.

So I am not that surprised as we are reaching the six month old mark (next week – where did that go?) things feel all up in the air and wrong again.

We have started weaning, the baby led way which is lucky because he screams if I so much as put a spoon anywhere near his face. It is going ok. He puts things in his mouth which is a step in the right direction! But that is about it and I guess that this part is hard because he is not yet really eating. He has not worked out that he needs to swallow! I know that this all takes time, but I am finding it hard to get the enthusiasm up to put together food that just ends up squished and mushed and thrown on the floor. I am persevering though, as practice makes perfect right!

His first tooth has just broken through the gum and since that happened this weekend he has taken to screaming a lot. Not crying, and it is not constant but it is loud and hard to manage when out and about – I swear it sounds like I am poking him with a big bloody stick. My head hurts so much and I am so frustrated. He will not let me hold him or cuddle him and I just want to make him feel better. Feel so helpless.

We had two wonderful weeks where he dropped his dream feed and slept from 6pm to 7am but now he seems to want food at night again – sometimes at midnight, sometimes at 4am. To be honest it changes every night. We considered going back to the dream feed but I hated waking him to feed him, and some nights he will go through without it. So for now I am doing it on demand at night which is okay, but Mr C has trouble getting back to sleep afterwards and then I get angry at him (irrationally I know) so I will be doing it, and he will have to give me some lie ins at the weekend!

So, all in all everything feels up in the air, mixed up and wrong and I hate this stupid feeling. It is the reason for my bad mood, my lack of motivation to look after myself, to exercise, to eat well.

Oh I am annoying myself so I will stop now. Please, anyone that has been here any advice / words of support / suggestions for how to cope with this all would be gratefully received right now.

Someone has woken from his nap, fingers crossed for a better mood.

9 Comments

  • Reply Mum with carrot in her hair January 26, 2010 at 5:29 pm

    Kel you're doing a fab job hon don't worry. I found that 6 month mark realy difficult because not only do you have the worries about whether they're actually eating enough solids but also those darned teeth start to make an appearance. It does get better I promise. If little one is putting food to his mouth then thats a ab step in the right direction. As soon as he starts swallowing more and more he'll start to realise that food makes him full. Its frustrating to make food for it to be wasted so try start off with just easy things like sticks of cheese, baby rice cakes or cut some veg into fingers and roast it in the oven. If you've got a splash mat under the highchair you can just rescue things from there and serve them up again later. Another way to do it is to try make things that the whole family could eat as a meal and just give little one some things off your plate. That way you won't feel as though there's been a whole lot of effort for nothing. I would make things like Spanish omelette,or fish cakes. I also used to make things like beef stir fry. The meat was too tough at first for little legs but she would just mess around with some noodles or peppers from it x

  • Reply Victoria January 26, 2010 at 5:42 pm

    My adviceon food is to stop trying so hard, just let him grab what he's interested in from your meals. It's easier and a much better way for him to learn and explore what meals are all about. Remember “food is for fun until one” as a wise mum once told me!!
    Screamy teething baby is no fun, so much sympathy on that front. I think the 'just when I get it sussed something buggers it up' feeling is my defining memory of the first few months of motherhood. The upside of course is that it generally also works in reverse, so just when you can't take anymore something changes and it gets better (until the next something!)

  • Reply Victoria January 26, 2010 at 5:42 pm

    My adviceon food is to stop trying so hard, just let him grab what he's interested in from your meals. It's easier and a much better way for him to learn and explore what meals are all about. Remember “food is for fun until one” as a wise mum once told me!!
    Screamy teething baby is no fun, so much sympathy on that front. I think the 'just when I get it sussed something buggers it up' feeling is my defining memory of the first few months of motherhood. The upside of course is that it generally also works in reverse, so just when you can't take anymore something changes and it gets better (until the next something!)

  • Reply Kat January 26, 2010 at 5:45 pm

    Say it with me: this too shall pass. At this stage he is still learning and he will get there. Personally I would not recommend cheese or whole egg as first foods – worth reading nutritional advice on these, email if you want recommendations. On the food front I used to steam up a batch of veg sticks at the start of the day then keep in the fridge for meal times. I'd then let him chew, squash, drop til his heart's content and offer any extra food from our meals.

    You are doing a great job. x

  • Reply Muddling Along Mummy January 26, 2010 at 6:20 pm

    Oh lovely it will pass and you are doing a great job

    Those points are all classic growth / development spurts – there's so much going on in their world at that point that everything does go out the window, but it does pass and get better

    Hang on in there (and enjoy the BLW – remember food is just fun until they're one !)

  • Reply TheMadHouse January 26, 2010 at 8:12 pm

    I think you are doing a super job, they all go through stages. We never truley BLW, we did a mixture of mashing a lit of what we had and spooning it in too.

    What you do need to remember though is that milk has much more calories than the food, so his body will need more fuel which is why he will be wanted a feed again, try the dream feed without waking him.

    Also Mum with carrot talks lots of sence

  • Reply Magic Mummy January 26, 2010 at 8:48 pm

    Aaaaw I remember that stage and it really does pass and then you move on to the next thing lol

    It sounds like you are doing everything brilliantly so just give it a bit more time 😉

    Mum with carrot in her hair makes some excellent points, roasted veggie fingers were a favourite with my two although not much ever ended up in their mouths….

  • Reply make do mum January 26, 2010 at 9:46 pm

    I know what you mean – just as K was sleeping through she's now back to a 3am feed plus a dream feed. She is ok with mashed food but the finger foods come back out at me. I guess it's just a case of persevering.
    You are doing just fine and Piran is a happy, healthy boy (hope the amber thing helps with the teething!) x

  • Reply miss leslieanne January 26, 2010 at 11:12 pm

    Aw honey, you *so* have my sympathy.
    As you know, I'm not too far ahead of you, so can't offer a whole lot in the way of advice, other than DO NOT feel like you're useless about the teething – it's a horrible horrible trick of nature, sent to try us. I wrote this post: http://lifewithalittledude.wordpress.com/2009/11/19/teething-traumas/ when I was going through it, and the best advice I got was from the very wise & lovely porridge brain, I still go back to that comment whenever I'm down!

    As for the weaning, I'm still winging it – so long as he's getting enough milk, look at food as a new toy for now – it's probably how Piran sees it 🙂

    You're a brilliant mummy. Don't forget that xxx

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