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Sew Lonely

January 29, 2014

I have said it before and I will say it again, the Internet is a bloody wonderful place.

It gives little old me, sat in her front room access to so many wonderful things and fantastic people. I taught myself to sew using tutorials and online courses. I got feedback from so many people, advice from others more than happy to share their experience with me. I taught myself to crochet via You Tube. No matter what time of day there is always someone around to share my makes or ideas with. And the inspiration is incredible. Pinterest, Instagram and other blogs give me so many idea my head is fit to burst and there will never be enough free hours in the day to do what I want.

What all of this means however is that I am constantly alone, sat in front of my sewing machine or computer, watching TV as I sew. I listen to Radio 4 a lot when I am sewing and audiobooks are my constant companion. But what I really long for is company. This weekend I was lucky enough to get some. Kat, Heather and I had been discussing the idea of a ‘Crafternoon’ for a while and this weekend I packed my bags and off I went to enjoy some solid crafting time and because Kat kindly let me stay a couple of nights some solid sleep too.


I had a basket full of projects, but to start with I really wanted to get the binding of my Aqua Butterflies quilt finished and the quilt top for Mum’s Radiant Peacock finished. Big tick for both of these.


We chatted and planned. We cut fabric and ironed. the sewing machines whirred. I helped Heather to make a dress for the first time and I made one along side her for Kate. Kat’s family kept us company and her wonderful husband fed us some amazing food. And I just sat there and made stuff for hours.


Heather bought her fancy Cricut machine and showed us what it could do. She also finished the border on a gorgeous crochet blanket for her niece. We laughed and chatted and discussed our lives, our families and our businesses. We laughed and drank tea and made lots of great stuff. I worked on a table mat using a scrap pack that I won from Simply Solids – more info on that to come soon. I even had help from Betsy and Big Bunny – they were loving the Improv patchwork.


It really was the best weekend. For months I have been halfheartedly trying to find a local group of crafty or sewing people. I can find classes and there are quilting groups around but most are a little way away and the closest are all full. As far as I can tell there is nothing in our village at all. And I realise after this weekend that this is what is missing, this is what I crave.

I want to find people who share my creative side, who love to make things. I want to find other people who like to sew who I can discuss all these things with. I don’t want to be limited to 140 characters and comments on blog posts all the time. I want advice and feedback and someone to talk to over some crochet and a cup of tea. I want a community that isn’t just online.

And so if it doesn’t exist I am going to have to make it. I don’t know where to start or whether there is anyone else out there who would even be interested but the best thing to do is just ask. There must be other mums at school that like this sort of thing. I just have to find them. And find out what they are interested in and when they might have free time and go from there. Even if it is just a couple of people coming here once a month that would be a good start.

Any advice and words of encouragement would be great. If you already belong to a group like these please let me know – I would be so interested in hearing about it. If you live in Ringmer or locally and want to join me – let me know – that would be amazing.

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  • Reply Deanna Massengale January 29, 2014 at 12:59 pm

    Dearest Kelly,
    I know how you feel. If not for the Internet, I too would be very lonely as I get no visitors, may get one phone call a day from my daughter who lives in Boston, and apart from the occasional trip to the supermarket or doctor, do not get out often due to some serious health issues.

    I too, love to sew, crochet, quilt, and my latest – trying to make jewelry inspired by Celtic and Indian (dot not feather) knotwork.

    I do have animals to keep me company, but it’s nice to interact with others and my go to is either Twitter or Facebook. Like you, I share what I’m doing, chatting with friends I’ve never met but know me well due to common interests. For me, I don’t think I’d be around if not for my Internet friends. They’ve given me much more than their friendship – they’ve given me hope that my situation will get better.

    I wish you luck with your endeavors. I love the peacocks you are doing for your mother. Do you have a pattern for it? I collect peacocks and would love to nake a quilted wall hanging such as the pattern you are doing. Your butterfly quilt is also quite lovely. Is it freehand or a pattern?

    • Reply Kelly January 29, 2014 at 2:05 pm

      Thank you so much for your comment. Isn’t it wonderful how we can be so far apart in this world and our interests can bring us together.
      I have a post scheduled for tomorrow about the Aqua Butterflies. The Peacock is something that I have been making up as I go along but now you have me interested in the idea of writing a pattern for it. It is something that I will give some consideration to.

    • Reply Kelly January 29, 2014 at 2:06 pm

      I would love to know your Twitter username too so I can make sure I follow you.

  • Reply Kat January 29, 2014 at 10:28 pm

    We need to do this again soon, loved having you here so much x

    • Reply Kelly January 30, 2014 at 6:37 pm

      Ah thank you. You were wonderful hosts.

  • Reply Anna Ryan January 30, 2014 at 7:04 am


    Crafting/sewing is a great way to meet people. Just start asking, put up signs and notices everywhere you can. There will be people who like you are crafting alone behind their own front door needing company.

    Just go for it!

    You can email if you want any support/advice.


    • Reply Kelly January 30, 2014 at 6:38 pm

      Thank you Anna. I’m a bit rubbish with new people but it’s so much easier when you already know you have something in common.

  • Reply Abby January 30, 2014 at 8:27 am

    Someone set up a knit and natter group based at my daughters infant school. There is a room at school they want to encourage community use of. I’m not sure if it ran in the day or an evening but maybe you could suggest it to your schools head or a PTA member? I know there are a couple of groups based at the local libraries so maybe that would be an option too. Best of luck with trying to find a group or starting one yourself 🙂

    • Reply Kelly January 30, 2014 at 6:40 pm

      Thanks for the comment Abby. Now Piran is at school I suddenly know so many more people so starting there is a great idea.

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